Why Telling Your Story Is Important

We all have a story: how did we get where we are now, who made a difference in our lives and what choices did we make along the way? We might not be conscious of the story but it plays a part in what we do. As parents, this story gains even more power. Suddenly it has the potential to be a script for how we parent. As Dan Siegel writes in Parenting from the Inside Out:

“If we have leftover or unresolved issues, it is crucial that we take the time to pause and reflect on our emotional responses to our children. By understanding ourselves, we give our children the chance to develop their own sense of vitality and the freedom to experience their own emotional worlds without restrictions and fear.”

To look at our story, we need space and safety. One of the things I love the most about Hand in Hand Parenting tools is the safety built into each class, with the listening ears of a confidential and warm group of leaders and parents. During the class, we look at our own experiences. Sometimes this is a chance to bring some old part of our story into the light where it can be safely examined. This is how we think more clearly about our life as parents.

Please contact me if you would like more information about upcoming classes or workshops. I have some scholarships available so the classes can be available to everyone.

You can also see these links:

Upcoming 6 week class, starting Oct. 26

Listening partner workshop, October 12

 

Get Support And Connect

Parenting by Connection series

This class will provide you with brain-based tools and the support you need to use them. In the process, youll change your family life to make it feel more connected. This 6-week jump-start series will be transformative.

6 tools needed to raise a happy child
Why your child has tantrums and how you can respond to them
How your childs emotions work
How to heal your child’s fears
How to help an angry child become playful and compassionate
How to build support so you can do your best thinking, more often

Meets 5 Thursdays, 10-11:45. starting Oct. 26. During the week of Thanksgiving, class members will receive a free consultation to replace class that week! The last class is November 30, and you will start the winter with a warm glow in your family. Cost is $180 with materials, (*I offer a discount if you have previously received the class materials, and returning students are welcomed!!)

 

SIGN UP HERE, and start getting support to build warmth in your family: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3089034

Infant Massage Instruction

Infant massage is a tool for early connection and brain development.

  • Improves communication in your baby’s first language – touch – their most developed sense at birth
  • Strengthens and enhances the parent/baby relationship and bonding time
  • Promotes and optimizes baby’s brain and self regulation development
  • Research proven to help improve quality of baby’s sleep, and thus parent’s too!
  • Excellent for fathers & mothers to develop & deepen secure attachment with their baby
  • Reduces the symptoms of colic, gas and teething pain (research proven!)
  • Relaxes and lowers stress – for both babies and parents
  • Provides additional ways to respond to your baby’s cues with nurturing parenting skills
  • Confidence building through cultivating and practicing attuned parenting
  • Learn ways to adapt the massage to your growing child’s needs to communicate for years to come

Contact me to set up a private or small group session. Skype instruction is available.

 

Parenting by Connection Starter Class: FALL 2017

This class will provide you with  brain-based tools and the support you need to use them. In the process, you’ll change your family life to make it feel more connected. This 6-week jump-start series will be transformative.

  • 6 tools needed to raise a happy child
  • Why your child throws tantrums and how you can respond to them
  • How your child’s emotions work
  • How to heal your child’s fears
  • How to help an angry child become playful and compassionate
  • How to build support so you can do your best thinking, more often

Please join me Thursdays from 10-11:45 AM, beginning August 31 for this life-changing experience. You will also receive a set of books and access to an online classroom with video material.

Class meetings August 31, September 7, 14, and 28 (NO CLASS on Sept. 20), Oct 5 and 12.

 

Click here to register:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/parenting-by-connection-starter-class-series-of-six-classes-tickets-35478845181

Listening Partnership Workshops

Please join me this summer for a listening partnership workshop series. A listening partnership is a tool for creating safety and support for yourself as a parent and person. While it is not complicated, it is so different from the kind of listening we usually do. The workshop introduces the concept and gives you some practice. Come for a three week series, or drop in as you can. It will be worthwhile.

 

Where: BloomLab Conference Room, 2921 E. 17th St. Building D, Austin, Texas

When: 10-11:30 Monday mornings  June 12, 26,  July 3

Cost: $10 per workshop

Please contact Laura.minnigerode@gmail.com or text 512-350-2815 to RSVP

More about Listening Partnership here:

How is listening time more beneficial than talking with mom friends?

And in this short video:

Listening Partnership 

 

Early Communication Class, forming soon

Babies are nourished by our eye contact and gentle communication. Developing a routine where we connect with eye contact and touch is an incredible tool for building attachment and contingent communication.

In this multi-week class for parents and babies,  you will learn the simple and powerful tool of touch communication and other approaches to get you started as a connected parent. You will get support for your journey as a parent. Mothers, fathers, siblings, and grandparents are all welcome and encouraged! I promise that this will be a formative and powerful experience for you and your child.

Class meets from 10 -11:30 AM, for a total of 5 weeks, at the PeopleFund building on E. 17th in Austin. Cost is $75 for the series.

If you are interested in learning more, please sign up at this link, and I will be in touch very soon. Thank you!

Sign up here!!

Parenting by Connection for New Parents: 6 Class Series

This class offers an introduction to the powerful tools from Hand in Hand Parenting (Patty Wipfler) and Aware Parenting (Aletha Solter), to build a lifelong strong connection. Get support for early parenting and learn about an approach that you will use throughout your parenting experience in this class that supports the emotional needs of parents and children.

  • Build a support network that will make you a stronger, more connected parent
  • Listen and respond to baby’s crying in a way that supports connection
  • Help your baby sleep better
  • Focus your love and attention

WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT? A research review of over 600 studies concludes that Parent Child Connectedness is the super-protective factor against adverse outcomes later, outcomes like drug abuse, teen pregnancy and dropping out of school. Now is the time to create your life long connection.

WHO SHOULD SIGN UP? This class is designed for parents of infants and toddlers, and I welcome babies to join us. BUT if you are a parent with a child of any age and want to join or have questions, please contact me!

Meets 10:00-11:30 AM, Thursdays March 2-April 13 (no class March 16)

St. Mark’s Church, on Barton Hills Dr. , 78704

$180 for six sessions, and includes a phone consultation with instructor

Laura Minnigerode, Ed.M. 

Certified Hand in Hand Instructor and Infant Mental Health Endorsed, Texas First3Years

Please contact me to sign up:

laura.minnigerode@gmail.com

Tips for Playfulness and Roughhousing

I have been trying some new playful parenting tools. Play is an amazing connector of hearts and creator of laughs, two really important and valuable things! It just does not always come naturally for me.

One thing that does help, though, is a good list of starting points!  My sources for these ideas: Hand in Hand Parenting‘s wonderful resources, and the books Playful Parenting and the Art of Roughhousing. Share more ideas with me in the comments or on Facebook in my Parenting by Connection group.

 1   Tune in, don’t swoop in. This kind of playfulness is about connection. It is important that your child has the upper hand in the power balance. At the same time, it is such a good chance to pay close attention to cues. It is vital that you honor this.   

2  Think of ways to be silly. Look for any possible avenue. Go way over board on this. Some examples: Pretend you forgot what day it is, or that you are mixed up about the way to pronounce something. Hold the homework paper upside down while trying to figure it out. With toddlers, especially, any thing that produces laughter is a winner.

3  Play may lead to big feelings. Tears or upset during or after play times are ok! It does not mean you did it wrong. Listen to the feelings that come up and stay present. In fact: sometimes imperceptible and even imaginary hurts can come up during play, and respond as if they are real and important.

4  Careful but not too much caution. It is good and so important to be safe. When doing active play like a pillow fight, choose your space with this in mind, and remove any potential hazards.  At the same time, try not to project an overly cautious attitude. When kids see that you are attentive to safety but also trust their play, it’s an incredibly powerful message. This is a big step towards resilience.

5  Don’t tickle. It is an uncomfortable feeling that takes power away. Parents generally have more power so it is valuable to invert that relationship in play.

 6 Use Listening Time to get support. Save your responses and use the support of another person or listener, that is the place to process your annoyance, anxiety or frustration about parenting.